People with the ENFJ personality type are warm, charismatic, and very social individuals. They tend to do very well in many diverse roles, regardless of seniority. Furthermore, ENFJs seem to be able to get people to like them wherever they go, which is usually one of the main reasons behind the ENFJs’ success.
In a Work Setting
- Cooperative, always eager to assist
- Very tolerant and open-minded
- Sensitive and intuitive
- Willing to express their opinion
- Find it easy to relate to other colleagues
- Seek win-win situations
- May be prone to taking on their colleagues’ problems
- Very charismatic
- Pay a lot of attention to their subordinates’ needs
- Great communicators
- Able to easily inspire other people
- Good at recognizing other people’s motives
- May be manipulative in some situations
- May get overworked if they receive too many requests for assistance
- Can cope with multiple tasks and responsibilities
- May underestimate their own capabilities
- Very reliable, loyal, and hard-working
- Quick learners
- Vulnerable to conflicts and criticism at work
In a Platonic Relationship
ENFJ friends are known for their warmth and kindness. People with this personality type enjoy connecting with others and getting to know them well. Most ENFJs find it easy to communicate, even with individuals who do not share any of their traits or ideas. That being said, ENFJ personalities can be quite selective when it comes to picking their closest friends: they value authenticity and sincerity, and do not open up to each and every one of their acquaintances.
Despite belonging to the Feeling (F) group, ENFJ friends are able to dish out criticism where necessary. This is not something that ENFJs enjoy, but they can be quite decisive and judgmental if the situation demands them to be. Generally, though, ENFJ personalities tend to be very tactful and kind, even to the point of being too sweet. It is difficult not to enjoy being with an ENFJ friend. They may be a bit too inflexible sometimes, but their energy and sincerity are very disarming.
ENFJs are likely to be somewhat idealistic when it comes to making friends—they want to be the best friends imaginable. Such an approach is certainly commendable, but people with the ENFJ personality type need to make sure that their enthusiasm does not stifle the other person. ENFJ friends tend to be very supportive, cheerful, and passionate, but not every personality type can cope with this. ENFJs should not take this personally.
ENFJ personalities are both able and willing to work on their friendships, placing them very high on their priority list. ENFJs take pleasure in helping people discover their strengths and passions, and then supporting them along the way. This is not entirely altruistic as the ENFJ will also likely expect their friend to return the favor when an opportunity presents itself. Regardless, ENFJ friends will definitely be highly valued and respected.
ENFJs are most likely to surround themselves with Analyst or Diplomat friends as this gives them an excellent opportunity to discuss ideas that other personality types may deem too idealistic. However, ENFJs tend to be quite open-minded in this respect and will rarely have major difficulties relating to different types, as long as the other person does not criticize their principles.
In A Romantic Partnership
ENFJ personalities take dating and relationships very seriously—their dedication and passion are really admirable. Even in early dating phases this is evident; people with this type are prepared to put a lot of time and effort into fostering their romantic relationships. First of all, ENFJs pay a lot of attention to their partners’ needs and desires. Second, they do not shy away from commitments or obligations, doing their best to connect with their partners. Finally, ENFJs do everything they can to feel the pulse of the relationship: they will occasionally ask their partner if everything is fine, whether they need anything else, etc. If there are any concerns at all, the ENFJ will rush to resolve the potential issue as soon as possible.
ENFJs take their obligations very seriously and are likely to do everything they can to create and maintain a solid relationship. Unfortunately, this is also one of the main weaknesses of ENFJs: due to their extraordinary emotional investment in dating and romantic relationships in general, ENFJs are likely to feel a huge sense of guilt and betrayal if the relationship (even if they were still dating) fails. However, this is unlikely to crush the ENFJ.
From the standpoint of sexual intimacy, ENFJs tend to be very passionate and dedicated lovers, doing their best to make sure that their partners feel happy. That being said, their Judging (J) trait is likely to introduce a bit of routine and predictability (which may actually be a stabilizing factor) into their sexual life.
ENFJ personalities loathe conflicts and criticism, especially when it comes to dating and romantic relationships. They will do everything they can to escape tense situations, including sacrificing their own principles. This can easily lead to resentment and difficulties later on, once both partners realize that the problem has not gone anywhere.
ENFJs should also learn to pay more attention to their own needs and express them clearly, especially while they are still dating. People with this personality type do not need much to feel happy; however, it is crucial that the ENFJ receives some praise and visible affection as well. Otherwise, the balance in the relationship may be disrupted, or their dating partners may see them as insecure.
Preferred partners: INFP and INTP types, as their Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance ENFJs’ Extraversion (E) and Judging (J) traits.
In a Family Setting, as a Parent
ENFJ personalities tend to be inspiring, warm, and very dedicated parents. They will try very hard to make sure that their children have strong value systems and grow up to be responsible adults. ENFJ parents are also likely to have very high standards, encouraging their children to be the best they can be, while also remembering to listen to their hearts.
ENFJ parents are likely to be very caring and nurturing. They will surround their children with love, warmth, and encouragement, always doing their best to create a safe and conflict-free environment for them to grow in. However, this can cause issues once their children reach adolescence: should the children wish to rebel against the authority of their parents, as many teenagers do, the ENFJ will likely feel hurt and unloved.
That being said, ENFJs’ intuition, energy, and sense of humor will help them a lot in such situations. People with the ENFJ personality type may be inflexible or even manipulative in some cases, but their genuine warmth and caring will certainly be remembered and appreciated by their children.