The IT Book For Me

Sales is never my forte and that is also the reason why I feel that I am lacking confidence in negotiations. However, I feel that this is a fabulous book to own and I hope the local bookstores here have it lest I ship it in via Amazon over the next few weeks.

Negotiation Genius



ENFJ in General.

ENFJs are natural-born leaders, full of passion and charisma. Forming around two percent of the population, they are oftentimes our politicians, our coaches and our teachers, reaching out and inspiring others to achieve and to do good in the world. With a natural confidence that begets influence, ENFJs take a great deal of pride and joy in guiding others to work together to improve themselves and their community.

People are drawn to strong personalities, and ENFJs radiate authenticity, concern and altruism, unafraid to stand up and speak when they feel something needs to be said. They find it natural and easy to communicate with others, especially in person, and their Intuitive (N) trait helps ENFJs to reach every mind, be it through facts and logic or raw emotion. ENFJs easily see people’s motivations and seemingly disconnected events, and are able to bring these ideas together and communicate them as a common goal with an eloquence that is nothing short of mesmerizing.

The interest ENFJs have in others is genuine, almost to a fault – when they believe in someone, they can become too involved in the other person’s problems, place too much trust in them. Luckily, this trust tends to be a self-fulfilling prophesy, as ENFJs’ altruism and authenticity inspire those they care about to become better themselves. But if they aren’t careful, they can overextend their optimism, sometimes pushing others further than they’re ready or willing to go.

Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom. Your every act can open hearts and minds.

David Deida


ENFJs are vulnerable to another snare as well: they have a tremendous capacity for reflecting on and analyzing their own feelings, but if they get too caught up in another person’s plight, they can develop a sort of emotional hypochondria, seeing other people’s problems in themselves, trying to fix something in themselves that isn’t wrong. If the ENFJ gets to a point where they are held back by limitations someone else is experiencing, it can hinder their ability to see past the dilemma and be of any help at all. When this happens, it’s important for ENFJs to pull back and use that self-reflection to distinguish between what they really feel, and what is a separate issue that needs to be looked at from another perspective.

ENFJs are genuine, caring people who talk the talk and walk the walk, and nothing makes them happier than leading the charge, uniting and motivating their team with infectious enthusiasm. ENFJs are passionate altruists, sometimes even to a fault, and they are unlikely to be afraid to take the slings and arrows while standing up for the people and ideas they believe in. It is no wonder that many famous ENFJs are US Presidents – this personality type wants to lead the way to a brighter future, whether it’s by leading a nation to prosperity, or leading their little league softball team to a hard-fought victory.

Most typical ENFJ careers share one key attribute—they focus on making other people happy. ENFJs are usually very warm, sociable, and altruistic, and they have many viable choices when it comes to choosing the career that is best for them. We will list some of the most common roles below, but please feel free to drop us a message if you have any comments or ideas.

Let us start examining ENFJ career choices by stating the somewhat obvious fact that ENFJs are sincerely interested in other people and try to do their best to help them. On top of this, people with the ENFJ personality type tend to have extraordinary social and networking skills—it is quite common for an ENFJ to be “that person who knows everybody.” ENFJs truly shine in customer-relations careers or roles where they need to be dealing with other people on a daily basis. They can be brilliant sales representatives, advertising consultants, or HR administrators.

Next, ENFJs are usually quite sensitive and even somewhat idealistic. This is a double-edged sword, as the same sensitivity draws ENFJs toward careers that reward high emotional intelligence; on the other hand, ENFJs are very vulnerable to criticism and should stay away from stressful careers. Some of the ENFJ careers to avoid include finance (especially stock trading), law enforcement, corporate management, emergency personnel, medicine, and the military.

People with this personality type are also really creative, organized, and honest. This makes them excellent psychologists, event coordinators, or politicians. (There are some honest politicians in the world!) Also, one of the best ENFJ careers can be found in writing; however, ENFJs tend to approach this from a journalistic rather than book-writing perspective as such a career allows them to leverage their people skills.

Finally, ENFJs love new challenges and the thrill they get from helping other people. Consequently, many ENFJs are found in “altruistic” careers, e.g., social or religious work, teaching, or counseling. However, it should also be noted that ENFJs need constant approval from other people in order to feel satisfied and happy. If this is not forthcoming, the ENFJ may burn out very quickly and move to another career path or project.

EDITOR’S NOTE: I am glad to have pursued a hobby in writing and also dabbled in event planning but the one that is giving me the most joy now is writing in WordPress! 🙂

The End of a February Nightmare

I admit that I have been immensely involved in work the last few months that I have been quiet online. Aside from having a new phone and having Instagram ( @ellyzselamat ) as a part of enlarging my scope of social network, I have been one too busy to write down the thoughts that have been omnipresent somewhere in the regions of my brain.

I have been lucky to be able to seek solace in reading. Presently I am reading a memoir of a breast-cancer survivor and it hadn’t been an easy book to read given that her life experiences veer real close to what I have been going through the many, many years ago before Daddy turned his light off on the dawn of 17th July 2013.

Papa, I miss you terribly and though everyone says or thinks that I am doing well, I admit that I am only human. Trust me, there are horrific days that I wake up thinking of how you left me and the topsy-turvy emotions that I feel every now and then. It feels as though I am battling some mental disorder of sorts. Psychosis or something? I genuinely hope not.

Anyway, I hope this would be a good start to writing online all over again and may this writing never fail in bringing out the words and the grief in me that I keep locked inside.

Here’s wishing one and all a beautiful day wherever you are, xoxo

2013 in Review for LBV!

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 8,500 times in 2013. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 3 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.

“I Can Decide…”

There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under my jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I’m going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life – whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others.
And most of all, I can choose my thoughts.

Elizabeth Gilbert

American Novelist and Short Story Writer


Our Higher Order

I took 1.5 years to get back on my feet after:

(a) I received the news of my Daddy’s bone & blood cancer diagnosis

(b) Wawa had stroke at home and I wasn’t there

(c) I went through a bitter and painful break-up which ended acrimoniously after 3 years of being with him

(d) It dawned on me that I will never be able to further my studies as planned..

… and all that happened in a twisted vicious cycle; like one after another test being laid out in front of me by Him. Although I was at the lowest point of my life, I never looked at Him and question Him why he chose me to go through all that in one shot. Funny how instead of killing myself (something I would prolly do if I were my immatured self at age 14), I turned to Him; the very One who was throwing all these supposed tests at me.

I prayed for the first time in many, many years and till this date, I have no idea what pushed me to want to wake up from my restless sleep and just solat even though then, I barely remembered the lines to a proper prayer. After all, I was beyond wayward then; dabbling my feet in hypocrisy, lust and so much more sins that I don’t think He will forgive until I make a brand new start.

But anyway, during the transition of the triple tragedies till now, I still hold dear to me the thought of furthering my studies and maybe someday, pick up the books to read Marketing or Advertising someday. I still yearn to wear that badge that my peers are currently basking in. You know, the badge that says, ” I am a degree-holder from so-and-so university..” Yeah, the typical liner I have been dying to say with pride.

But joining the corporate life ahead of my school-going peers isn’t all that bad after all. Sure, my friends will look and snigger as a top Scholar ends up in (just) McDonald’s while they’re chasing after that elusive degree, Masters’, PhD and so much more. I know when I see some of my friends in-store, they have this high-up-in-the-air look whereby they feel so much more mighty than me just because they are my paying guests who indirectly pay for my monthly pay check. Trust me, coming from a woman with a swelled-up ego of a man, that took a hell lot of beating on my weary soul for a while.

But All Praises be with the Lord as He granted me the eyes to see beyond all that and see that at the end of the day, I have the upper hand versus the rest of the paper-qualification-chasing world. I entered the workforce at a tender age of twenty, the very age I am supposed to be in my 2nd Year in NTU or NUS. The inexperience that comes with my young age makes me an easier “sponge” to teach as compared to the other corporate people twice my age. I am in the same position as those adults, five or six years older than me. The only difference is that they are in the position because they are qualified (they have the degrees to boot) while I am in the same position as the higher-ups in McDonald’s see a potential in me and look past my diploma qualification.

Sure, walking past the fact that I may trail behind in terms of studies isn’t an easy walk to tread upon but considering the benefits I am reaping thus far, why should I continue to look down upon myself just because I am not a degree-holder ? Other people out there see the spark in me and it came to a time whereby I should look at myself the way others see me. There’s so, so much to life than just a degree and if you ask me now whether I want to save up my money for an education, I’d say no confidently. Not anymore a meek and barely audible “No” as I know if He destines me to study in the future, the world will work out its way to my favor somehow.

All Praises to Our Higher Order.
All Thanks be to God.


Cycle of Monstrosity

I figure it must be darn hard living with a forever pregnant, forever whiny sister who goes all pushy when she is craving a certain food item at such ungodly hour as she approaches her monthly crimson tide.

May God bless my brothers’ souls.

Imagine when I do get married and eventually get preggers. I fear the same repercussions will be borne by my poor future husband.

I see a pattern, aye it is a vicious cycle.

May God bless my future husband’s soul and God, please do grant me a forever loving, forever patient husband who can put up with me and my 456, 928 daily whinings for at least the next twenty-two years; the same way both my brothers are able to survive the last two decades or so.

If he lasts anywhere beyond 22 years and still loves me just the same, that would definitely be a miracle.

Master the Art of Saying No

I came across a very valuable article online today as stated below.


Did your summer fly right by? Where did the time go? If you’re like me, a better question might be, why wasn’t more of that time spent on doing the things that mattered more?!

It’s easy to get overscheduled, overcommitted, and overloaded. In our effort to please or help others, we say yes when we’d much rather say no.

Would you plan the book club retreat?
Why not.

Watch the neighbor’s kids this weekend?
Of course.

Take on an “extra-credit” project at work…?


…that’s due tomorrow?


Whatever it is, we often find ourselves wishing we’d said “no” instead of “no problem.” Such commitments sound great, but we can’t really do it all! cost us the energy and time we’d rather spend on our own passionate pursuits or on the people and activities that give us the most pleasure. And when we try, we can become tired, cranky, resentful, or all of the above.

Before diving head first into fall’s busy calendar, take a moment to practice saying no. It helps if you lose these three factors before finding your response.

Lose the Guilt.

When someone asks for your help and your first thoughts are, “You know, I really should do it,” you can bet there’s a thread of guilt underlying the circumstances.

Guilt arises whenever you respond out of obligation and not because it’s a request you sincerely want to fulfill. And where’s there’s guilt, regret usually follows in the form of, “Why, oh why did I ever agree to do this??!!” Recognize your true feelings before responding and you’ll be able to say no without the guilt or remorse.

“Urgent” is another guilt-ridden word. People who insist their requests are “urgent” are essentially transferring their feelings of stress or their inability to plan onto you, so why feel guilty turning down those so-called urgent requests? Remember, urgent is not the same as important. Only you can determine whether something is truly important enough to merit your time and resources.

Lose the Fear.

We often say yes because we’re afraid. We’re afraid to hurt someone’s feelings; afraid others will think we’re selfish unless we agree to the request; afraid to upset a friend or our workplace status. Before you respond to a request, ask yourself this: “What’s the worst that could happen if I say no?” Chances are, not much of anything. So ditch the fear and just say no.

Lose the Excuses.

There’s no need to fabricate reasons for turning down requests. A simple, “no thank you” should suffice. However, if you feel the need to supply an explanation as to why you can’t help/join/give, keep it short and direct, and just be honest:

“My schedule is really full at the moment, but I’m flattered you asked me.”
“I won’t be able to join you, but I hope you’ll have a great time.”

“Sounds like a good opportunity, but unfortunately I’m already committed to other projects.”

Ladies, we’ve only got so many hours in the day. Lose the compulsory “yes” and gain the freedom to live your life the way that will provide the most satisfaction and fulfillment. Because sometimes by saying no, you can say yes to what truly matters.


New Moon (2009)

Synopsis (Thanks GV!):

Bella Swan is devastated by the abrupt departure of her vampire love, Edward Cullen but her spirit is rekindled by her growing friendship with the irresistible Jacob Black. suddenly she finds herself drawn into the world of the werewolves, ancestral enemies of the vampires, and finds her loyalties tested.


For the ones who have no idea why the synopsis is that short, it is because Twilight Saga: New Moon is the follow-up movie to Twilight which was released sometime around the same period in 2008.

Initially, the main reason why I went to the movies today was actually to watch The Informant! which has Matt Damon in the hot seat as the corporate whistle-blower Mark Whitacre. However, when I was at the box-office and waiting for the counter staff to find the timings for The Informant!, I caught sight of the words “New Moon” on the screen in front of me. So I just casually asked the girl if New Moon is available for advance purchase or not. She smiled and said,

“Yes you may purchase in advance. Today is the start of the special sneak previews of New Moon too.”

Obviously I didn’t believe my ears as I have checked on Golden Village’s website and they claim that they have the earliest possible date to catch New Moon and that is on December 2nd and I knew there is no other cinema operators who have come up with such official statement. So I got the girl to repeat her answer and I can safely tell you, the next few minutes that I was at the box office with her and Muzzy-Wuzzy, I was gushing like a lunatic girl who just got her first kiss and is telling the world about it. Merely gushing is an understatement, just ask Muzzy-Wuzzy and the counter girl; I was shrieking in delight that I just couldn’t shut up and kept asking her if she was kidding me or not.

Obviously The Informant! had to wait another day as I was pretty happy beyond words that today was the day that I get to watch New Moon! Like eight days ahead of everyone else who is watching the Twilight Marathon in GV! I feel so, so blessed that I am positive that God had shone one of His lucky stars at me that day.


Anyway, according to my movie partner for the day who has not watched the first movie, Twilight – Dude, you are so behind the rest of the world man – he said the movie was easy to follow. I reckon even if you are a first timer movie-goer of New Moon, I reckon you will share the same sentiment as him.

As for me, I watched Twilight last year and it was the last movie that I watched before 2008 concluded. I have to say I harbored great expectations of New Moon since Twilight was so promising. Indeed, New Moon delivered and surpassed beyond my expectations for the movie. Although Edward Cullen (played by Robert Pattinson) has considerably lesser roles that Jacob Black (played by Taylor Lautner), the former’s presence wasn’t lost in the movie at all. After all, Bella Swan (played by Kristen Stewart) kept having visions of him throughout the time that Edward was away and that helps to jolt you from the idea that the movie is all about Bella & Jacob only.

Casting Robert Pattinson to play the vampire would prolly be one of the wisest decisions ever made throughout the movie. Please do not assume that I am one of those Twi-hards who is madly in love with RPattz. Hell no. I just feel that he played his character extremely well that every flinch or pain that he felt during the movie was so clearly portrayed that I actually feel the pain as much as he did when it was his time on the screen. Even speaking to Bella and resisting the urge to do anything to her was very evident throughout the movie and I have to give all credits to Robert Pattinson for playing his character really well.

But don’t be mistaken. Edward wasn’t the only character that was played well in the movie. Basically, everyone in the movie lived up to their specific characters well enough and the movie definitely sits on one of my favorites’ this year. Word has it that Eclipse will be launched in June 2010 and I am so thankful that I don’t have to wait a year’s wait to watch the Twilight saga. I vowed to stay away from the book since:

(1) it is so popular now that everyone in the train, bus, taxi, car is reading it
(2) I have an additional eight novels recently bought during MPH Warehouse Sale
(3) I don’t want the expectations from the book to not be reached when I view the movie thereafter as I am sure many contents in the novels are cut out from the big screen – just look at the Harry Potter series.

So till then, I sincerely hope that Eclipse won’t take forever to arrive and I hope being helmed by a new director doesn’t make the movie lose its vampiristic aura & charms on me till the last novel moves up to the big screen.

New Moon gets five out of five stars.
There really is no flaw in the movie unless you are hoping that I compare the content of the book versus the movie as I have not read not one Twlight series novel yet.



The Fun Theory and Q&A

Here are three videos created by the Volkswagen people and I must say, it is really a very creative movement. Whether the videos were posted to market the VW brand or not, I reckon it is a very entertaining series of videos nonetheless with environmental issues being discreetly highlighted in them. I highly suggest that the governments of the world implement these creative ideas to teach the world about the ‘fun factor’ in life which seems to have been diminished by the travesty of time.

Take a breather at work & school & enjoy these videos!



On another note, I’m sure a majority of you have watched this highly popular India-themed movie helmed by the British Director which was fraught with plenty of buzz and had its fair share of controversy from the media & actors.

Slumdog Millionaire (2009)

This movie, released in February this year was adapted from a novel by an Indian diplomat, Mr. Vikas Swarup and I was blessed enough to have the opportunity to loan the book from Muzzy-Wuzzy immediately after the film aired in the theatres.

Q&A by Vikas Swarup

However, me being the forever-and-ever-busy me never took the time off to read the book until I reached a point in time many months ago when I decided to buy secondhand books on an impulse. The few books that I’ve read before this one took bloody long to read as they don’t have that much of a “pull factor” to keep me glued to the pages. To the point that I took many months just to finish reading the book. One example of an unattractive book (in my opinion that is, do not sue me for slander please) is this one:

The World According to Mimi Smartypants

I took so long to read it much to the chagrin of Hobibelanja. On top of the fact that I have a very hectic schedule, my book reading time is always savored during my commuting time as that is the only possible time I have to myself to read. I don’t read my novels at home, I have too many distractions from the household and the other locations that I do sit down to read at is coffee joints. Sadly I have been busy and to top it off, the book pictured above was boring. Don’t get me wrong, it is a funny book but it’s not the funny ha-ha kind of funny. More like, funny-if-you-get-the-hidden-meanings kind of funny. The book here pales in comparison to the other autobiography books that I have read thus far.

So the minute Mimi Smartypants was over, I picked up Q&A during the tail-end of October and brought the book along when I head out. The book is 345 odd pages long, approximately 100 odd pages more than Smartypants but I finished it like, today. Yes, I took less than three weeks to read the book. Three weeks may seem long but considering the fact that I only commute like twice a week and my commuting time is less than an hour or so, it’s stupendously fast. It was so riveting that for any one journey in the train or a duration of waiting for my dinner partner for the day to arrive, I can easily read 75 odd pages in less than an hour. That is how hooked I was to the book to the point that I missed my destination stops just ‘cos I was curious to know what happens at the next page, next chapter and so forth.

Plus the book is much more worth than the movie itself as the movie was loosely adapted by the book hence it lacked that X-factor that was omnipresent during the entire reading of the book. Believe me if I say that this is the best book that I have read so far in 2009 as it really is good and deserves all the royalties, fan bases and interests from the book publishing world, for the extremely unapologetic look into the lives of the people who still live in poverty and get by with less than one USD a day. It will make you feel utterly pained at the harsh lifestyle of poverty and you will never be the same again.

This book deserves five out of five stars. I don’t review books but perhaps I should add book reviews into my tags since reading is of second nature to me.


Have a lovely, lovely day everyone!
God Bless You!